Create The Tomorrow
YOU WANT TO HAVE
Clarity
Get clear on who you want to be, what your perfect day looks like and the steps you can take to live the life you want to lead.
Compassion
From self-care to perspectie and communication techniques we'll give you the tools you need to thrive.
Courage
Growth and change can be uncomfortable but just on the other side of that discomfort is everything you're looking for.
No One Gets Married
Expecting to Divorce
Without conscious effort, navigating divorce aimlessly can lead to emotional turmoil and leave you feeling lost, angry, and overwhelmed. You can go through it head over heels or you can stand up, dust yourself off and consciously choose to go through it in alignment with your value and what matters to you. The traditional adversarial approach of "me versus them" often results in heightened conflict, drained bank accounts, more resentment, and fractured relationships with former partners and our children. Here's a little hindsight, that attitude affects you, far more than it affects your former partner.
When we handle divorce without addressing our emotions and past experiences, we also risk repeating these painful patterns in yet another relationship or just giving up entirely.
It’s Never Too Late to Take Control
No matter how challenging your divorce feels right now, how contentious it is, or how "terrible" your ex is, there's hope. Divorce coaching offers personalized support tailored to your needs, helping you gain clarity and develop effective strategies to navigate the process with confidence and in alignment with the best outcome for you. Conscious uncoupling is a solo journey; however, there is great value in former partners taking their own independent journeys together to develop a common foundation moving forward.
In these sessions, you will gain:
Emotional Support: A brave space to express your feelings and heal from emotional wounds without judgment, analysis, or simply being asked how that makes you feel. Our goal is to move forward and not ruminate on the past; however, we will discuss tools and resources to develop that part of your support network.
Conflict-Avoidant Communication: Improve interactions with your ex-partner, leading to reduced conflict and smoother discussions. Get a basic set of guidelines and learn to implement them whether your former partner cares to join or not.
Co-Parenting Guidance: Expert advice on creating a co-parenting plan and approaching collaborative decisions that prioritize your children's well-being.
Personal Growth: Foster resilience, heal from past hurts, and constructively build a positive future.
Legal Insights: Understand the steps, terms, and responsibilities, empowering informed decision-making. Learn how to identify if mediation or counsel is right for you. Learn how to hire and communicate with an attorney effectively as this is often the leading source for costly legal bills.
Conscious uncoupling only works if you choose into the version of yourself that you want to be and choosing to let go of what was. There is no 'finding yourself' when you take responsibility for your future. Here, we create.
Howdy, I'm Sean Savitt
My journey to becoming a Conscious Uncoupling Guide began with a commitment to transforming my own life. I found myself grappling with why my second divorce was so drastically different from my first. My first marriage was an 8-year, fairy-tale relationship that began in college and ended mutually, with both of us knowing there was more to experience. We signed our papers and parted ways amicably. There wasn't much to "uncouple" other than learning to do better next time. I was confident I would "find myself" and eventually "the one."
The world led me to my second wife, an ambitious attorney who seemed to want the same things I did. Shortly after, she became pregnant. Within a year of our son's birth, she left, taking our son with her and ready for a fight. I was lost in fear and confusion, spending a quarter of a million dollars defending myself from false abuse claims and child endangerment accusations. All I wanted was to be in my son's life.
We went through two court-ordered parenting coaches and a Level II co-parenting course, yet I found myself excluded from decisions or forced into court to have input. I knew something had to change. Despite my best efforts, I kept encountering the same conflicts. So, I began to create my own tools. I realized these tools could help others, too, as I frequently received calls from people going through divorce, seeking an outlet for their emotions. These tools proved life-changing for me.
Seeing the possibility of building a relationship with my co-parent, my son, and myself based on trust, respect, and understanding, I became passionate about helping others achieve the same transformation.
I am also a Certified Parenting Coach and live with my playful, adventurous son in the foothills of the Colorado Rocky Mountains. He teaches me new things daily, helping me grow as a parent and a person. I believe the world we live in today is different from the one I grew up in, and my son will grow up in yet another world. This belief is the foundation of my parenting and our strong relationship. I don't just teach this stuff; we live it.
Before coaching, I spent over a decade as a licensed Realtor, guiding families to find homes that fit their needs. I learned that neither the space you're in nor the people you're with matter if you aren't whole with yourself. My background also includes extensive work in neuro-marketing and psychology-based user design. Additionally, I was a Camp Director for a high-risk youth camp, investing my passion there.
In this course, we will discuss what to expect from the process and guide you toward your desired direction. Most conflict-causing behavior stems from fear, often from the unknown. Expecting your attorney to educate you will be the most expensive law education you'll ever receive without a degree at the end. I'll provide the information you need to enter the divorce process with confidence and self-control while we shift your focus to what brings you joy and what you want your days to look like. For those with kids: how do you live in only half their life?
I'm here to support you on this journey. You'll go through it one way or another; the question is whether you'll tumble through, hitting each obstacle, or take control, stand up, and navigate the process with growth and grace. If that's you, let's build a stronger, happier future together, just the way you want it!
The Traditional Model of
Divorce Isn't Working...
I don't know a single person who thinks divorce is fun. It can be liberating, but there's no value in putting lipstick on this pig. The traditional model of seeing who can find the best attorney, keep the most stuff and punish the other the most, doesn't work out for anyone. It's ugly and messy. You undoubtedly know at least one person who has gone through it, and everyone you talk to will have a different, often contradictory, piece of advice on what you need to do. Everyone says it won't be us, and before you know it you find yourself writing the third $5,000 retainer check to fight over a $200 patio set and that's only one side of the legal cost. You laugh now, they weren't when it happened.
I believe the real issue is that we’re not taught how to handle this kind of loss and these intense feelings, let alone acknowledge and experience them in a constructive and healthy way. We think of divorce as "me versus them."
What's wrong with this mindset is that it not only costs a fortune—often more than what is being fought over—but it also drains everyone's energy and prevents them from moving forward. At a certain point in life, you start measuring things by the energy exerted and whether it's in alignment with your chosen direction. Whether you see it now or not, there's an opportunity here but you have to chose in. I can give you the tools you need to manage the logistics and together, we can get clear on what you want your life to look like and set the foundation to go get it!
HERE'S HOW IT WORKS:
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When you book a discovery call with me, we’ll sit down together and talk so I can get a sense of what’s going on for you and your family and where I can offer support.
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I’ll explain my approach and the options we have for working together. You can ask any questions you have and see what type of support would be the best fit for your life and schedule.
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If it feels right to you, we can book our first session and get started. If it’s not a good fit, I will do my best to offer alternative resources or suggestions for support. There’s no pressure of any kind ever.